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to Domestic Violence(Fr West is a moral theologian for the Archdiocese of Detroit -- JM)
The Bible that Christians hold dear encourages believers to embrace the value and lifestyle of marriage and family. In fact, Christian households are called to embody the ideals that Jesus taught his disciples, so much so that the family is called the "domestic Church". Though they have different roles, the husband and wife are equal partners in the convenant of marriage, and have the primary responsibility in the formation of their children in the ways of faith and life.
The Bible opposes all household violence. When relationships begin to breakdown, and when intolerable situations arise in a marriage and/or family, these same Scriptures encourage a local intervention model that would call upon one's church, pastor and friends. Some might consider when they have familial difficulties that there is an admission of shame or weakness.
The Bible encourages forgiveness and reconciliation at the most local level. However, when the relationship is deteriorating and personal violence is involved, it is not shameful to ask for help that includes confidential counseling that respects privacy. One must take steps to quell the violence, and find a way that leads toward healing and strength.
Domestic violence is a moral wrong. Violence against a partner in marriage, whether physical, sexual, psychological or verbal, in the home or outside the home, can never be justified, abuse can never be tolerated. If and when efforts at reconciliation fall, and the situation in the home grows more dangerous, lethal, criminal or life-threatening, it is imperative that the abused partner seek sake haven in a shelter that has a trained staff who will help the person to discern the next steps toward resolving this difficult dilemma.